Inside the Controversial World of Medically Assisted Sex | Slutever

[Music] because I have a disability with sex I got confidence and because of that my life is like so much better [Music] [Music] welcome back to all access pass I’m Spencer Williams and up next I will be talking about physical disabilities and sexuality what time is all access pass again 5 to 6 p.m. on Thursdays oh that’s perfect well I can help out with boards too yeah oh really yeah that would be awesome thanks so much for your help yeah of course I’m happy to do it good singing guys yeah you too Spencer Williams is a 24 year old radio show host living with cerebral palsy in Vancouver he’s been a client of central solutions for over a year my name is Trish central solutions is my little organization that I started just you know don’t exclude yourself from living we’re here to help you kickstart that so to speak this is the main broadcast studio and this is where all the magic happens and you host a radio show yeah a show called all-access pass and what we focus on is disability and disability issues right now it’s a monthly show since I am so passionate about the subject sex and disability I actually convinced my show to do a mini-series on the subject sex surrogates also called intimacy coaches are professionals who are hired to provide a sensual touch and erotic coaching for people with sexual dysfunction or physical challenges with the goal of improving the quality of the client’s future sexual life sensual solutions is a Vancouver based company that caters specifically to clients with disabilities pairing clients with intimacy coaches who help them to overcome obstacles in their sex lives due to Canada’s laws around paid sexual services companies like sensual solutions operate in a legal gray space in countries where sex work is criminalized ethical debates have arisen about whether sex should be a right for everyone what was the response to your sex episode it’s been really well received I think it’s been our most important episode to date that’s so interesting it’s really hard to talk about the subject of sexuality in the world of disability what gives you the confidence to be able to do that well sensual solutions gave me an avenue to look at sex and disability in a different in a different light it’s really great to work at a radio station that has allowed me to open up about a topic that I am so passionate about I think the sexuality and with any sensitive subject it’s just so helpful for people to hear the stories of people with similar experiences and similar bodies it just makes you not feel so alone yeah it’s it’s important to give people of all abilities access to something to make them feel comfortable yeah I have to advocate for myself because if I don’t who else is going to do it [Music] hey it’s Trish calling thank you very much for applying with us can you give me a quick rundown of where you’re at now what you’re doing for work and why you applied I started central solutions because I saw a need in Vancouver for people with disabilities who weren’t getting the same kinds of services that other people were getting in relation to sexuality and sensuality how are you able to discover that need after I retired from my corporate life I started answering phones at an escort agency and what I noticed was that there were some clients who would call in they would like to see someone however they did let me know that they had a disability and I found it difficult to match the escorts that worked at this company with these clients I thought no this is what I want to do there has to be a service that helps people with disabilities and I thought what’s the big deal you know help them get together help them get into a position help them if they need help with a condom like why should they not have that right so I opened the doors in the fall of 2011 why do you think it is that there is such a lack of services for disabled people when it comes to sex is it just because we gonna be sexualized disabled people because we don’t want to deal the biggest misconception about people living with disabilities is that people with disability don’t get horny I really don’t think people realize that there’s thousands and thousands of people living with disability that have no sex life and some clients just say I just need to find out that I’m human and that I’m worthy how do you describe exactly what you’re offering is it a form of therapy but it’s medically assisted sexuality we have a range of things cuddling lots of touching possibly some kissing trial where someone might want to do a lot of massaging so let’s say someone’s genitalia isn’t functioning we’ll try and find something else remapping of the brain trying to find new pleasure centers basically what we’re talking about here is helping the client access their body for pleasure have you ever done a threesome yeah my client I got to being so open-minded you can tell you like music I’m a fan of music in general they’re legends going way back when you were young did you feel pressure when people that you know that you that were your age and your friends started having their first sexual experiences did you feel okay I need to do this now – no Wow it was actually the opposite like I’d be like 11 and watch movies like American Pie and think like okay I have to lose my virginity before high school’s out American Pie seems like a dangerous place to get your sex ed looking back II probably wasn’t the greatest and then as I got older I realized that that no I’m gonna do the smart thing and just wait for the right person maybe try some dating we’ll see how that works out but it wasn’t getting anywhere and I was getting kind of frustrated and then a few more years passed and I’m like okay now it really needs to happen so I started researching like different agencies and everything I found was like really shady and made me really nervous and then I came across Trish and central solutions I had like a couple of like good close friends start to use the service – oh cool if my friend can do it I could do it what’s there to lose except my virginity which I need to get rid of yeah exactly so I told my dad about what I was wanting to do and he thought it was pretty cool so it was just awesome that he gets it what did it mean for you to finally be able to have a sexual experience through central solutions I was hella nervous but I knew that I’d finally found an outlet to express and connect with another human being [Music] she’s good just meal like fellas dream [Laughter] Jefferson with disability there’s a certain level of vulnerability and you have to be okay with absolutely my mom is uncomfortable with it but she understands she’s like a lawyer you think deals with like human trafficking okay she’s on the opposite side of like sex work yeah so really though she’s uncomfortable with you doing this because she’s at waiting what’s going wrong with sex trafficking yeah no it’s therapy really yeah my dad got really mad and it was like she wants to do it this is joy so we devalue something that he’s really passionate about great well cause like I was saying what’s the alternative there’s nothing supportive yeah I’m a grown man I can make my own decisions and it has serious repercussions I can deal with yeah I can deal with those yeah that was a comment right yeah that’s interesting in and of it she was human trafficking lawyer to me what we’re talking about in this situation is your race your flee the race as my rights are being infringed upon right yeah no one’s going to be pretty fun I’m just super thankful for this cuz like it allows me to practice or your future wife and exactly and I know she’s up there somewhere I just haven’t absolutely go in service where I feel like sure it may be expensive but you can’t put a price on this experience I have a good time during these sessions so it’s it’s worth to invest in things I was gonna say the value the yeah 100% [Music] [Applause] [Music] how do you feel about sexual assistance in kind of a medical scenario using your body using your skin having being nude or partially new do you have any boundaries and in that regard what’s your hiring process like we have a basic application form and then we do a phone screening and then meet in person criminal record chat and most of them have some kind of health background that’s what I’m looking for we give them some training and they’ll learn about let’s say basic pivot transfers from a chair to a bed what motivates your coaches to want to work with disabled clients and that is a question that’s asked in the interview process so for example one coach has someone in their life that does have a disability another person is a human rights activist and feels that this work needs to be done another coach just said she was very open minded and there’s nothing wrong with using parts of your body to give pleasure to someone else or to help them access their body that must mean they’re really good people I think we’ve hired some wonderful people it’s interesting how I found out about sensual solutions I had a friend send me an article about the agency and she said I think you’d be really great for this job and then about a year later I saw an article in the newspaper and it was featuring Trish and her company again and because I’m pursuing a career in sexual health I contacted her and we became friends because I believe in the cause of what she’s doing so I think it’s important that everyone have their sexual needs met it’s a basic human right it’s not a privilege like riding a bicycle or ice skating I’m currently studying for my clinical psychology degree the goal is to get my doctorate in human sexuality I’m basically doing the work now that I’m getting certified to say that doing so a lot of the clients that you meet do they not even really understand what they want you have to almost work with them to help them discover what they want sexually quite often yes very often like we will have people who’ve never experienced being with a woman they’ve never seen a woman naked and it’s very educational there are so many ways to be intimate so this is where we get into a lot of the somatic sex work and body work I’ve had clients orgasm by having their earlobes massaged there are many different ways to achieve climax that doesn’t necessarily involve penetration or intercourse and what do you get out of it like what’s how would you leave a session what do you feel I love making people feel good and I’m I’m good at doing that I think it’s very healing watching a transformation someone going from being scared and nervous and insecure to by the time I’m done with my session with them they’re open and we’re laughing and they’re confident and they’re free to ask anything and it’s the the energy is just it’s night and day it’s so different when you tell people what you do how they usually react I have encountered some people being condescending about it it’s because they also have a lot of triggers around the sex industry and sex work in general and what they think that means they think about prostitution and sex trafficking and that is not anything close to what it is that we’re dealing with here the stigma that exists around this type of thing this puritanical idea that the no sexual interaction should be exchanged for any type of money right exactly and it’s funny because people say oh you’re you’re you’re selling your body which is completely untrue what’s happening as a service is being provided you’re choosing to participate in an activity that everyone does sex is just as important as air and water in terms of thriving and surviving as a species on the planet so sex work it serves society it has a function and it does help people it really believes that the world needs more people like you I’m doing so cool at first I was a little uneasy about paying for it but just seeing how much of a connection I was getting I’m like okay there are people that are there for you to just help you explore and find your true self it’s boosted my confidence by a thousand percent like it’s just changed every area of my life every time I have a session it still feels like my first time it still feels brand new I still get those butterflies you

100 comments on “Inside the Controversial World of Medically Assisted Sex | Slutever”

  1. Mushfique Momin says:

    11.30 ๐Ÿค—

  2. Dan Quay says:

    Great video and the woman are beautiful and I did know this actually existed I have disability and it learning one so I sure get need help as I find it difficult to express love and intimacy and the sensual touch..

    This why love to sing and dance and put gigs as stripper and I feel this gives me pleasure and gets me closer to the people

    This service is wonderful and they say itโ€™s not about the sex.. the pysicall touches of women gives the ultimate happiness.. brilliant

    I need there service and I bet not cheap or free ๐Ÿ˜‚ like most escort agencies

  3. Jesse Henry says:

    Not my proudest fap.. meh oh well…

  4. Kurtis Melrose says:

    Beautiful piece. Vice shaking off itโ€™s dark an dangerous roots. …. Approval.. pending.

  5. TheTrenchface says:

    Hell yeah dude. Im so for this lol

  6. Azim Qureshi says:


  7. Elan' says:

    I disagree that sex is a human right. But you have two consenting adults and these women aren't forced into sex work nor are they taken advantage of.

  8. sloppy toppy says:

    I have a disabled son and I'm definitely gonna get him laid when the time comes…or at the very least allow him to bring GFS home lol

  9. Matthew Westerman says:


  10. 1canospam says:

    I'm so glad there are people like this in the world. PS who else thinks that he was allowed to motorboat the interviewer?

  11. Taco Bell says:

    Sayyyy weโ€™re โ€œRicky berwick

  12. Sherry Andrews says:

    1 like = a sorry for god

  13. Gaurav says:

    Virgins Assemble
    We want The "Right to Nut" too

  14. MrHungloww says:

    Bruh I cant even get a text back from a female๐Ÿ˜‚

  15. Obsidian Wildfire says:

    I'd fuck him

  16. Jennifer Bates says:

    This is fucking amazing!!!๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ˜˜, I'm in school now for sexual science!

  17. eXCeLSi0r ABCDEFUCKOFF says:

    Women who has pity sexual desire upon thee disabilities shall open the gates and walk in the lights of the heaven ๐Ÿ˜†

  18. He Cap says:

    He getting more action than me

  19. Eden Parks says:

    I saw a nardwuar disc

  20. J.W. Zagst says:

    I don't think I could ever use a service like this, or any kind of sex work for that matter — not because I disagree with it, but because I have a warped sense of self in that, even if paying obscene amounts of money to a completely willing partner, I would feel guilty expecting someone to be intimate with me. I am incapable of envisioning myself being intimate without also picturing the general disgust in the partner's eyes despite her trying to hide it. That is why I am a 37 year old virgin who's fantasies all include fictional characters and never myself.

  21. Alien says:

    Finally some time of yโ€™all can get laid

  22. Just Me says:

    Dude the interviewer looked intimidated as fuck when interviewing the sex coach ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

  23. Fish Ed says:

    Uhh I have a disability too

  24. laura martinez says:

    Spencer seems like such a cool guy and Iโ€™m so jealous of his music collection

  25. Wathi Mangang says:

    i would love to bang this vice assistant..
    dang she's kinda hot and sexy.!

  26. vargheese joseph says:

    Well I am 32 year old virgin ๐Ÿ˜Ž gimme a nobel

  27. Jones 0 says:

    So it's a hand job?

  28. Jones 0 says:

    How much…

  29. Donovan says:

    I found it touching how Spencer's Dad understood what his son needed.

  30. Ganozer Channel says:

    11:23 ( โ€ข ) v ( โ€ข )

  31. Studio of Jay Jay says:

    Brilliant to cover a gap in a market like one in the sex industry; very misunderstood. Kudos to the company offering this service!

  32. ozgur1318 says:


  33. Sarah Smoot says:

    I think this should be offered in the USA I have a few really good friends n family this could really do wonders for not sexually but mentally just awesome you go with ur bag self I love that u get butterflies everytime that's amazing.

  34. Rayven says:

    I'm perfectly healthy and I still don't have a sex life lol. Feelsbadman.

  35. #sa8die says:

    human rights means human rights ,.,.,.(its treyway,.,.frfr)

  36. Cassino says:

    Hats off to the lady … ๐Ÿ™

  37. Rajesh Basnet says:


  38. MaybeTheBest says:

    Sex is not a basic human right. Sex is between two willing partners end of. Weather paying for it or not.

  39. Kegyetleneper says:

    "Whether sex should be a right for everyone" it's already is, it always was. I don't even undertstand this statement

  40. Forbidden Knowledge says:

    do insurance pay for this?

  41. Bill Seidel says:

    Anyone that's opposed to this has 'issues' best treated by mental health professionals.

  42. DASENK CHANNEL says:


  43. Anaya Noor says:

    Kiss me ๐Ÿ’‹

  44. ali shah says:


  45. TheMartine says:

    Censors out the coach during sex, interviews her openly five minutes later 8)

  46. Heather Nelson says:

    Or are they exploiting disabled people?

  47. Alamin Ronty says:

  48. Jonathan Morales says:

    11:24 bruh

  49. Morph 1981 says:

    14.44 she has plenty of oil and is rubbing it good. Must feel like heaven especially when you cant do it yourself. Dude is about to explode.

  50. REALISTIC_MAYO says:

    my dick broke ๐Ÿ˜ฟ๐Ÿ˜ฟ๐Ÿ˜ฟ

  51. Jono 84 says:

    Prostitution by any other name is still prostitution

  52. Nor Sugeng says:


  53. loonylinda says:

    Disabled people have needs like everyone else..i admire these ladies…well done

  54. Homde Cc says:

    ูƒุณ ุฎูˆุงุชูƒู…

  55. Kelly Nichols says:

    …somebody shoulda thought of this a long, LONG time ago! this is a realistic solution to some of this worlds most real and complicated and dangerous, and stigmatized, issues

  56. Kelly Nichols says:

    disabilities are things that dont often get included in even the conversations about sex, much less those WITH the disability HAVING sex, or, even becoming the confidence carrying parts of humanity that were all meant by nature to become!

  57. Kelly Nichols says:

    that ladys [email protected] HOT!

  58. Dantick09 says:

    That is what prostitutes are for duh

  59. zesty boi says:

    Wasn't this the plot for a Criminal Minds episode?

  60. MrSmitheroons says:

    Cool stuff. This is why I'm so glad we are busting taboos right now in 2010's. So much to learn and you don't know what you can't talk about.

    Sounds cliche but I think this is an important series and Karley is doing a service to the country (to the world?) exposing these topics and getting these interviews. Good job, Vice. ๐Ÿ‘

    P.S. Captions in 4 languages is great, but no English? What about deaf viewers who speak English? On your website this video has no English captions, and the auto-generated ones here on YouTube missed some words. Thanks for doing some captions, but consider adding captions in English too!

  61. MeryAnn u says:

    min 6:27 lmfaoooo

  62. Lethal Lady V Bankz says:

    Something I would never have thought of lol

  63. Kushmael McFlurray says:

    Soooo these women are prostitutes but for disabled men?

  64. Shaun Mills says:

    That broads legs never end.

  65. Ridwan Ali says:

    Everyone deserves the right to have Sex Disabled or not

  66. gentelbenn62 says:

    The law & the helpless! Those in power will always want control.

  67. mercuryix says:

    This is the most personal video I think I've ever seen……

  68. Teej says:

    This was great. Made me think about it, it's crazy

  69. Kevin Hamilton says:

    I'm not a hooker I'm a Intimacy coach???

  70. VB 81 says:

    16:13 she look so stupid

  71. Plato's Cave says:

    What frustrates me the most is that that disabled people could have such a better quality of life if society didn't perceive sex to be some kind of special thing, literally, these people do such a great things but because prudent and arrogant people feel like they're entitled to regulate something everyone does, other people have to suffer. This video has really opened my eyes. Sex is sex, it's a biological thing, I just wish people would stop overlapping their own bias onto it.

  72. Ajay Kumar says:


  73. Michael Pearson says:


  74. The Nudist Report says:

    Wow this is very important for sure! This is not sex traffic Ing these people are not able to find a partner who they can have sex with, not all but some are left alone. Thatโ€™s never right and everyone deserves to experience a orgasm and to have sex no matter the disability.

  75. kenni lasprino says:

    I need sex ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

  76. I Love You says:

    Superb ๐Ÿ’‹

  77. Annie De says:

    Ahhh this really tugged on the heart strings honestly.

  78. Blaze With Nella says:

    I love this โ™ฅ๏ธ

  79. Jasmine Aaliyah says:

    11:27 nipple

  80. Alex Fullwood says:

    I am disabled but never had sex yet

  81. Aneesa Tejada says:

    Wow I really love and appreciate this.I had a friend in a wheel chair tbh I always thought about it.

  82. Ida BeautyGuru says:

    Disabled people are probably a lot cleaner then, non disabled people who pay for sex .

  83. Liyani Bernier says:

    Time to delete me history!

  84. SpringMtn Hiker says:

    This gentleman is very brave to allow filming during his session. I've never thought much about people with disabilities wanting/needing sex. This was a very enlightening video.

  85. Dasha Buendia says:


  86. Chris Purnell says:

    This is a gray area

  87. Alexander choc says:

    Porno en vivo

  88. manish lilaramani says:


  89. manish lilaramani says:


  90. manish lilaramani says:


  91. manish lilaramani says:

    14.46 THAT GUY DIED!!!!!

  92. manish lilaramani says:


  93. TheDark Knight says:

    this disabled guy sounds like Bill Gates.. Gates talks the same way

  94. Brooklynsecrets Brooklynsecrets says:

    Who ever came up with this idea was very clever and will definitely help those that are disabled live longer and not fell so alone if they don't have a partner . im 100% for this

  95. B T says:

    How much a visit?

  96. remy mendoza says:


  97. ุงุจูˆ ุฑุงุดุฏ ู‚ุณูˆู… says:


  98. mysteries Phanto says:

    8:31 did anybody catch that when he said whatโ€™s there to loose except my virginity the laugh and she said which I need to get rid of.

  99. Britz Lopez says:

    Would you ever go skinny dipping?

  100. Bryan De la Hoz says:

    Is her voice digitally blurred?

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